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Mother in law Boss!
My mother in law just bought the company of
"yards on the go" which is a flowering company. We build fences, mowe lawns, plant big trees, empty fertilizer and spread it out, basically anything for peoples lawns. I am 45 years old and have been working for this company now for 10 years. I loved it and things were looking good. Then my husbands mom took control and bought out the company. She and I never got along too well in the first place. Now I am in hell. She will come over to our house where we are having dinner and in our comfort zone and ruin it with her talk about the company changes in mind. For one we will no longer have the hours that we are used to. My shifts change week to week and I am to even address her as Mrs. Koselskie and not Barbara. Company trucks are now being soled and we will be driving old clunkers to save money. I used to have my own crew that I managed and now that has been stripped from me. Barbara has me under her supervision and it is very humiliating. The other day I was getting ready to leave and she walked over to me and said "first unload my truck with all the shovels and fertilizer" She walked off and was on her cell phone jibber jabbing. I stayed and unloaded what she was suppost to have already done. I hate my job now.
you should have taken the opportunity to swat her upside the skull with one of those shovels, but, the chance may yet present itself again. you only suffer when you ''allow'' her to manipulate, so , if you refuse to do so, the worst she can do is fire you. tell her to go home and dont bring work to your house or she will be charged by the hour for the session. make her fire you by being insubordinate , then she has to pay you unemployment , make this an enjoyable transfer for you as you head toward findin another job. in others words, if you allow her to continue her organized torment , then you deserve to be tormented. theres people who get ulcers and people who give them, which one do you want to be?
Agree with first comment, put your foot down. ...and KEEP it down.
Otherwise, find another job. Let her know your grievances, give her a chance to resolve them...if she is indignant or arrogant about it, say nothing...immediately go out and find another job...then quit when you get it.
Well, since she IS the owner, probably not much will change. If you don't get along with her, like everyone else said, as hard as that may be for you, QUIT! Preferably with another job to go to.
She can make you work whatever hours she wants (within legal limits) and ditto for whether you have a crew working under you. I've been there with the personality conflict thing, people who are nasty and spread it like a poison; get out with your sanity while you can, before you blow and make your connection with the MIL worse. Even a lower paying job is not worth the stress.
As for dinners at YOUR HOUSE, tell her you have a rule: no business talk at the dinner table. My family runs a small business and we don't talk business then. It's supposed to be a time for family. If she insists on talking shop, don't respond to it, automatically change the subject as if you hadn't heard her.
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