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Wedding Bliss
So- I am getting married this November- when I took the job last November I made this quite apparent. At first my fiance and i were planning on going to Japan for our honeymoon. I went to my boss in December and asked her if it was going to be okay to be gone for four weeks- two of which would be unpaid. She promptly averted the question by saying that she didn't know and would have to ask the director (she is a department director but runs to the company director at every little thing) I continued to ask her in the following weeks because we needed to get the plans made if we were going to go. She stalled long enough without ever giving me an answer that my fiance and I decided we would just take a cruise to Mexico. So that was in April- it is now the end of August. She is still harping on the fact I am not going to have enough vacation time to go on my honeymoon. On top of it all I found out yesterday- during a staff meeting no less- that she has planned a meeting for the morning of my wedding. Although my wedding is in a different city, many of my closer co-workers were planning on coming and making a "road trip" out of it. With this now planned meeting those coworkers are now not able to come.
All I have to say is I will enjoy my wedding whether or not she does everything in her power to stand in my way and while I'm sitting in Mexico I will make a toast to her frigid bitch ass!
4 weeks of vacation? Who do you think you are? I take one week off in my industry and am looked upon like I am a total slacker. Sounds like you are the one with the problem, you think you deserve 4 friggin weeks off. give me a break, quit if you don’t like it.
To hell with work and your work-is-more-important-than-life boss. Take off, have fun and don’t look back. And to the above post: You’re a dumbass. If you can afford time off, take it. Never put work before life, cause at the end, work will matter very little.
I don’t totally agree with the first comment, but 4 weeks is a long vacation (paid or not) within your FIRST year with the company. If you were somebody with years of experience who had made significant contributions to the place, that’d be one thing. But think about it, you’re new! And one full month without someone doing your job! Many companies only give 2 weeks plus maybe a week of option time for sick days. And don’t pretend you’re not going to take an extra day here or there for wedding prep right before the big date. It will happen.
Depending on the type of office you work in, co-workers may think you’re getting some special treatment just because you’re getting married. Marriage is a special occassion, but an entire month is pretty excessive. B!itchy or not, your boss is in a tight spot here.
If your employer can make do without you for 4 weeks, they can make do without you permanently.
Wow, some harsh words here. I think as you gave plenty of notice you should take the time you planned on. You told them in the interview, they didn’t have to hire you. Enjoy your wedding and your trip:)
At some point in the very near future, you need to give serious thought if your director is the kind of person you want to trust your future well being to. You are going to be dependent upon her recommendation for raises, work assignments and promotions. If you care about any of those, find another position.
4 weeks is way too much, 2 weeks is pushing it. When i got married last year I took 10 days off, 2 days prior to the wedding and the week after and that was pushing it, I should also mention that I have over 10 years in with the company. also what day of the week are you getting married on that an important meeting is scheduled?
If they were aware of the 4 weeks when you hired, then don’t worry about it. If they just knew you were getting married and assumed a more common 1-2 weeks, then they might have some basis for concern. Are you getting married on a week-day?? It was rude to call a meeting the day of your wedding at any rate. Have you talked to them to see if they could reschedule to allow co-workers to attend? Regardless, have a great wedding and enjoy your honeymoon. Work is second to family!
If you’re not getting married until November, can’t you ask your boss to reschedule the big meeting for a couple days before? Just tell her that your co-workers were going to come to your wedding, but that now they can’t make it because of this meeting. Be direct about it.
She can’t have some time for her honeymoon?? The vacation of a lifetime?? If she can’t take some time off to go to Japan, what is she supposed to do—fly there and back in a week? We should live in a culture where we work to live and it isn’t seen as a favor to give us time for other important things in life…like spending more than 10 minutes a day with your kids, for example. Europeans get 5 or 6 weeks vacation each year. Think about it!
4 weeks of vacation? Who do you think you are? Fucker…..
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